Travel is stressful. Other people often add to the stress. Me and my husbands differing travel styles could easily make us poor traveling partners. How have we made so many vacations work for us for almost 19 years? Don’t get me wrong, we’ve have had some tense moments (that time in Maine with no hotel room in the entire STATE, so we slept in our truck at a rest stop). All these years of travel have taught me how to make anyone into the perfect travel partner.
The key to making anyone into an outstanding travel partner involves the 2 C’s: Communication and Compromise.
You know? Talk to each other. This is a conversation that must take place BEFORE you leave. When planning a vacation I figure out what both of us is expecting from the trip. A vacation is most relaxing and enjoyable if you are on the same page BEFORE spending days on end together. Recently we took a trip to North Carolina, I wanted a nice relaxing beach vacation while he wanted to stop at Old Salem’s Museum of Early Southern Decorative Arts. Old Salem is an interesting place but not what comes to mind when I think relaxation. To make the trip truly work for both of us, we move onto the second C.
We compromised by going to Old Salem for one full day then moving onto the relaxing portion of the Outer Banks. I am not a beach person (have you seen all my freckles!?), but the roar of the crashing waves is very soothing to me. On a lot of our vacations, we have a mix of GO time and VEG time. (Honestly, most of it is GO time.) But we both understand that the other needs different things from a vacation and have come to respect it (even if we don’t always like it).
Compromise does not have to be a 50/50 every time. Each vacation can be catered more toward one while the other knows that the next trip will be more focused on them. This isn’t about keeping tabs on who gets what and how much. Keeping score of all concessions makes one a horrid travel partner.
If traveling with other adults, please take into consideration the needs of all others before making a dedicated itinerary.
When we go on vacation we tend to only think of ourselves but we need to remember that time off has different meanings to everyone. Become the person everyone wants to travel with.
P.S. the 2 C’s are also very helpful for marriage in general!
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